How to Win Friends and Influence People is a great book about how to have successful interactions with people. I read it so that I could better understand how to influence those I come across in my daily life, and make more friends while at college. Additionally, it is a great book because it is like 48 Laws of Power, but less manipulative. Instead of being about manipulating people, it is about how to change your outlook and demeanor so that more people want to get to know you. I highly recommend reading it.
In How to Win Friends and Influence People Dale Carnegie describes how one can change their daily interactions with people for the better. Instead of doing the usual and being negative when something goes wrong or a person’s work is sub-par, Carnegie recommends finding a way to be positive. Although his advice is more in depth than that, it is a basic summary of his point. Positivity beats negativity every time when dealing with people; it is more effective and will make everyone happier.
Carnegie breaks How to Win Friends and Influence People into five major sections, each with their own group of sub-points. I don’t want to spoil the book for you, or write for too long, so I won’t get into summarizing each one. However, they are all very helpful because they span a wide variety of subjects. From leadership to home life to salesmanship, Carnegie’s points all are obviously very true and very helpful.
The basic human reaction is to be negative. Carnegie says that is wrong because it puts the other person on the defensive. There is no way to really win an argument, because no matter who is correct, someone will leave angry or bitter. Instead, be positive. That will allow people to save face, feel better about themselves, and have a good motivator to succeed in the future. All of Carnegie’s chapters and points really drive that idea home. He uses anecdotal evidence and general logic to show how why is correct and how one can improve.
I loved reading this book. It is extremely helpful for personal interactions; after reading it, I can already feel a change in the way I deal with people. Furthermore, it is great because it manages to be helpful while still being a positive force.
48 Laws of Power is a great book and also very helpful in the realm of dealing with people. But it is about manipulation. It feels slimy to implement the advice given in it. On the other hand, How to Win Friends and Influence People is a super positive book. Implementing the advice Carnegie gives would not be negative for anyone involved. Instead, everyone would be better off and happier for it.
Additionally, How to Win Friends and Influence People is a great book because of how good Carnegie is at finding pointed examples that prove exactly what he is trying to teach. He uses examples from home life, politics, and the business world to show how people are better off after learning and implementing his advice.
They and the people they interact with are happier and more effective. Those are great results, especially for learning the easy, and at times obvious, lessons in a book. Carnegie’s examples are great because they are pointed and clearly show ways to implement his advice into your daily life. Instead of sticking to hard to follow or implement generalities, Carnegie gives specific advice that anyone can follow. That is why it is such a great book.
How to Win Friends and Influence People is a book that everyone should read. No matter what their background or career is, they will be better off for reading it. Carnegie’s advice is easy to understand and implement, and everyone would be a better person and have better inter-personal skills if they followed it. I cannot recommend this book highly enough. Buy a copy today!
By: Gen Z Conservative
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